Sexually Promiscuous
I recently had an encounter on my face book with a woman who is very much a gay advocate. She promotes the lifestyle so much I thought she was their spokes woman although she is heterosexual. For weeks she had posted a barrage of gay pictures, quotes and comments, some of which were offensive to other. One post was of Willy Wanka with a caption of “So, God hates gays ha? I didn’t get that memo. Can you send me that memo.”
Now I understand that I could have taken her off my face book page and been done with her. Instead, I left her on in the hope of sharing another side of this coin. When I saw the Willy Wanka post asking for the memo I sent her this: 1 Cor 6:9-10 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.The memo is pretty clear who will not inherit the kingdom of God.
With so much gay rights legislation in the news, it is clearly dividing our country. The right and left, Christian and seculars all stand their ground on this one subject, even if they are not gay. I would like to share my Christian thoughts and concerns on the subject.
If you read the previous bible verse it says fornicators, idolaters, adulterers and of course other behavior that God deems a sin. Let’s look at three of the sins mentioned above; adultery, fornication and homosexuality.
Adultery
Adultery = Voluntary sexual activity between a married person and a person who is not their spouse. If you knew a couple married for 15 years and one of them were having an affair for the past 3 years, how would you feel about that? Most people would feel shocked, angry, outraged and may even want to confront the cheater. I have heard people say, the cheating spouse deserves to be punished, should be taken to the cleaners in court, be banned from seeing the children. When the shock of the news subsides, friends and family usually comfort the spouse who was cheated on, trying to help the fractured family make sense of it all. I can tell you what doesn’t come to mind. That the cheating spouse was born to cheat, he/she was created that way, therefore this behavior is excusable and the rest of the family will have to deal with it. No, instead we think, how could this person be so selfish, thinking of just a moment of pleasure when he/she has a family, children and a spouse who is always there. When it comes to adultery, we clearly see the destruction and the sin in the sex act. If the spouse is willing, you will find in most cases the cheating spouse in therapy or marriage counseling to resolve the problem. Never does anyone say; he or she was born that way. A sin is a sin and the bible calls Adultery a sin.
Fornication
Fornication = Two people not married having sexual relations. We all know someone or have been this person at one time or another. What we don’t realize is God made it a sin for a good reason. When we have relations with someone, we create a tie to that person. 1 Corinthians 6:16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one. Not only does the bible say sex joins two people together but science has proven this as fact. Chemicals in the brain with hormones are released to bind us to our sexual partners. Our eyes dilate, feelings change and emotions emerge. Scientific data has proven, sex ties us to a person emotional. If you’re on face book you know there are sites you can go to showing who has looked you up in the past year. I believe some of you would be surprised to know that Joe or Jane from that brief relationship you had 4 years ago is still looking you up. That’s because you created a tie by having sex just a few times. The problem lies in hurt feelings.
These’s days you can always find a story in the news of someone being shot, stalked or abused by an old boyfriend or lover. I have heard of men complain of women stalking them after just 3 dates.
How about S.T.D’s. Some take time to manifest symptoms and while your sewing your oats you could be passing on all kinds of nasty S.T.D’s to others. How many unwanted children come from pre-marital sex. Hundreds of babies are born every year to teens and young adults who are not equipped or ready to raise a child. Bringing up a child as a single parent isn’t the best environment either. God made marriage in the garden of Eden between a man and a woman in order for the children to get the best of both parents. When a child is raised without a mom or dad, it is difficult on the child. Seeing other children with both parents may make the single parent child wonder if they are really loved, if their other parent left because of him/her. I am sure some of you can attest to this, maybe one parent passed away or left unexpectedly, leaving you a child of a single parent home.
Sex comes with consequences especially if you’re not married. You are more likely to get S.T.D’s if you are not married. Secondly, you run the risk of getting pregnant. Being a single parent is a difficult lifestyle and not having the support of both parents when raising a child is hard. Both sexes bring something the other doesn’t have when it comes to raising a child. God made us to think and act differently. Having both parents in rearing a child is important. Serial dating is another problem. It can lead to violence, stalking and in some cases sexual assault. Those are some reasons why God made Fornication a sin. God wants us to live peaceably, a full life with good relationships, not sexually promiscuous lives to leave a wake of hurt and broken people along the way.
How many times have you heard someone say; we were all born to be sexually promiscuous, or it’s in our nature to have many partners? If you are thinking of the sex addicts, they tell them to go to counseling too. God doesn’t make rules than change the game by making you what He said not to be. He said Fornication was a sin. Therefore, He will give us the tools to over come the desire to do that thing He told you not to do.
1 Corinthians 5:19-21 Says: The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.
The bible calls these sins acts of the flesh. It’s our selfishness that allow our feelings to control our moral self. Today it’s ok to be out of control, cheat, lie, have sex with whomever, whenever you want, with no regard to others or anything. God says that’s feeding the flesh. Feeding the flesh is to not be in control of your desires but allowing your desires to control you.
Homosexual Behavior
Using PFLAG and National Dept. of Health and Services, Gay and Lesbian site, a few other sites I came up with some statistics on gay and lesbian relationships which I would like to share.
The average rate of domestic violence in traditional marriage, established by a nationwide federal government survey is less than 15% per year. Unmarried, cohabiting heterosexuals report a higher rates of violence of about 20% to 25% per year. When the same standard is applied to gay and lesbian relationships, the following evidence emerges: 48% of 43 lesbian couples, and 39% of 39 gay couples reported domestic violence. When it comes to depression more than 65% of gay and lesbians have had feelings of depression with over 50% on anti-depression medication.Thoughts of suicide are higher in gay and lesbian couples than in traditional households. The statistics of suicide, depression, anger, S.T.D’s, domestic violence are all higher than a traditional relationship. We all have access to these numbers, then why are we pushing for homosexuals to have a lifestyle of sadness, anger, violence and fear? If this is happening all over the world then why are we not trying to help these people become whole, healthy and happy people instead of pandering to their wants (flesh desires)? Why are we not trying to get them help like we would a sex addict or a family that is broken?
Instead our society fights to get same sex marriage legal while forcing Christian organizations to marry them when it is clearly against their religious beliefs. Forcing public schools to teach alternative lifestyle in health classes and fighting to have the same agendas taught in Christian schools. When sex is taught in schools, it is to learn about reproduction not promiscuity. There is no reproduction in the homosexual community, therefore, there is no need to teach our children homosexual lifestyle choices. That subject should be taught by parents not teachers.
Taking away someones religious and moral freedoms to allow another group to share with the community their sexually immoral lifestyle is wrong. Not to mention we are feeding the problem not helping those who need help.
We all have seen what happens when you oppose this behavior. You are considered a hater, bigot, an in tolerant bigot, cured at and scorned. All that tolerance in the gay community goes out the window. They scream for tolerance but if you listen they clearly have no tolerance for other opinions.
I have gay friends whom I care for very much. When I listen to my friends they seem so hopeless, sad and are looking for someone to save them. I decided to write this blog because I know of a man who I had countless conversations with. Countless nights spent talking, being there while he cried and fell apart. One night he decided to accept Jesus Christ and started to study. Today, three years later he is doing so much better. He was gay and although he is still working on his demons, he feels free, more calm, no longer depressed, hopeless or suicidal. He has a girl friend who he feels comfortable with and together they press on. God gives us all we need when we seek Him. He will bring the right people into our lives to help us make sense of the mess. He will find a way to make us whole again.
God said homosexuals will not inherit his kingdom but he does give us a way to inherit his promise. All the sin, even those of fornication and adultery are forgiven in the person of Jesus Christ. God has given His son for all of our sins and in John 3:16 He says: For God so love the world He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. Romans 5:8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Ephesians 2:4-5 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ— by grace you have been saved—
The scriptures tell us, God loves all of us. God is our Father in heaven who created all of us. He gives us these rules so we can live a good life without sadness, depression, hate, anger, suicidal thoughts. That is why He tell us how to live, He doesn’t want to see us suffer. How do we over come them? By first accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior. When you do this, you are opening up the door for God to work in your life, to help you come to a true understanding of His will for you. His best life for you. He will put in you the fruits of the spirit and remove the destructive desires that allow us to sin. 1 Cor 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
When we accept Jesus we are asking God to help us overcome the things most difficult for us to overcome by ourselves. He will never leave us or be separated from us. When we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior we are His and we will see changes for the better in our lives.
Romans 8:37-39 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.